There’s no easy way out, vol. 1: The absence of doing hard things is…still hard

Hot take: The life you don’t want is no less difficult to live than the life you want.

Interchange “life” with whatever the case may be e.g. career, education, relationships, leisure activities, media exposure, social impact. The specifics don’t matter.

You have some piece of a vision, but it doesn’t bear much resemblance to current reality.

Perhaps your actions towards that vision seem ineffective. Perhaps you’re not taking action at all. Perhaps you’re convinced it can’t be done, because you don’t have the necessary time/connections/money/optics/words/whatever. Perhaps you think that kind of thing isn’t really for (“people like”) you.

If you’re honest with yourself, you can acknowledge the fact that thinking that way is already difficult. It is hard work to load the weight of pessimism upon yourself and carry it each day. Likewise optimism, granted, but at least optimism may help you to accomplish something.

Perhaps you think there will be time later, because right now is just too hard. Perhaps you’re already bristling at the idea of me (“what could he possibly know about my situation?“) telling you to try harder “or else.”

WWE Superstar Braun Strowman enacting "or else" upon a hapless victim.
Self-explanatory.

Which brings me to my next point.

Hotter take: The “or else” is already happening in your life.

Suppose you don’t have what you want. Indeed, have you even been clear about what you want? Suppose you haven’t considered any path towards what you want, much less taken consistent step. The alternative is not, in the end, comforting or even neutral.

What fills the time, if not growth? Here are some options: loneliness, want, slights, envy, bitterness, overthinking, insecurity, posturing, and procrastination. The combination of these endlessly grinding affronts and complacencies ends up somewhere between penance, addiction, and torture.

The good news is that as soon as you’re tired of being stuck, the end of such expensive passivity is all within your hands.

Join me next time to discuss vision, planning, and overcoming resistance.

Published by alexandermcmath

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